About Coaching

Coaching is an interactive process done on the phone or in person that helps participants to develop more rapidly and produce more satisfying results. Coaches work with clients by using a combination of empathy and education. As a result of coaching, clients set goals, and take take action to more fully use their natural strengths and develop the areas where growth and integration are desired.

Coaches help Coachees stay on track or get off track with purpose.  NYCNVC Coaches are trained to facilitate growth and awareness without judgment.  Many participants have stated that the Coaching Relationship is the most effective way to integrate NVC concepts and awareness.  By working with situations that apply specifically to your life experience and your relationships, the learning is greatly intensified.

Sample “Homework” Agreements for between Coaching Calls

 

Journaling is helpful for most Coachees. 
 “3 Entry Journal” – this has a short entry about 1, NVC Successes or understandings, 2, Breakdowns or learning opportunities and 3, comments about their empathy sessions with their buddy.

“Live Feelings and Needs Exercise” – This is a journal kept usually on a small notebook.  It is used to create new thought habits toward an awareness of Feelings and Needs.  The Coachee writes a quote that someone said and the corresponding feelings and needs associated with the words.  This can be done 1 to even 5 times a day, depending on how hard the Coachee wants to play. There are many versions of this exercise that develop different aspects of one's consciousness.

 “Appreciation Journal” – This helps Coachee increase awareness of met needs and feelings as a “radar” to needs.  Coachee writes down an O, F and met need.  1 to 5 times a day.

 "Create a list" of breakdowns, breakthroughs and live situations to bring to call.

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Typical Coaching Objectives

1) Clarify “Coaching Agreement” as in purpose of calls (as follows) and the role, proportion and agreements about moving from Empathy to Teaching and Coaching   

2) Identify short, medium and long term objectives 

3) Support Coachee in maintaining their own Empathy support, including “Empathy Buddy” and “Empathy Medic” relationships 

4) Support Coachee to bring relevant material to the calls and track their direction and progress 

5) Create and monitor agreements or “homework” to support real-life integration 

6) Role-model Empathic Listening and Honest Expression

 



 Sample Breakdown of a Call 

In the first call or two most of your time will be spent working on the identification of short medium and long term goals, based on a review of the Coachee’s “opening feedback forms.”  Other stuff would be setting up empathy support and practice group logistics.  After that, a typical call might look like this.

First 5 minutes – short check-in, both of you, present feelings and needs.

Next 5 to 20 minutes - Check-in on Empathy Buddy status and experience, long and/or short term objectives. Refine empathy call skills.

Next 10 to 30 minutes – Review journal work, empathize, discern identified NVC principles, processes or ideas as they relate to a "real-life" situation.   

Last 5 minutes – Harvesting and celebration.  New or renewed “Homework” agreements.
 

If you are interested in being coached by an NYCNVC Coach, please call our office at (646) 201 9226 or email us at
coursecoordinator@nycnvc.org