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NYCNVC Intensives offer a rare opportunity to achieve deep levels of integration that are extremely difficult to achieve in our daily lives.  We are offering four Intensives, designed to support learning and growth from the beginning to the deepest levels.  

Events and schedules are designed to provide a rigorous and uplifting experience.  All Intensives are designed and led by Thom Bond, who is the Founder and Director of NYCNVC and a Certified Trainer with CNVC, in partnership with advanced Associated NYCNVC trainers from around the region.

Each Retreat focuses on the refinement of NVC Skills and Consciousness from a different point of view.  Each retreat focuses on a new area of development, providing a comprehensive and challenging journey with guidance and support for your pursuit of NVC practice and awareness.

Click on an event or scroll below for details on each Intensive.

Event	Dates	Location	Tuition  Fees	Food and Lodging (total per person)	Comments
"NVC Discovery Weekend"  Click Here For More Information Click Here to Register Online OR CALL 646 201 9226 OR CONTACT	Sept. 12th (7:00 PM- 9:15 PM) 13th (9:30-4:30) and 14th (9:30-4:30) Request an Intensive in your area.	West Side YMCA 63rd Street, Manhattan and Central Park West	$250*	N/A NON-RESIDENTIAL	1 Evening, 2-day introductory level with high learning
4-Day Empathy Intensive with Thom Bond Click Here For More Information Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue regarding your NVC experience, your physical and training needs and your understanding of details and any preparation that would add to your learning. To Register Call  646 201 9226 For questions - Call  646 201 9226 or contact	July 17th (2:00 PM) thru 20th (3:00 PM) 2009 TBA Request an Intensive in your area.	Menla Mountain Retreat Center   www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm  www.menla.org	$375*	$325-$561 Depending on accommodations	Thursday thru Sunday (2 1/2 hours travel from NYC and 2 hours from Albany) Map and Directions  Click Here  For Information about bus transport to Phoenicia NY (Menla's Stop) on Trailways Click Here.   Camping for July
"What I Tell Myself" 4-Day Self-Empathy Intensive with Thom Bond with  Nellie Bright and Nirjhari Delong Facilitating Click Here For More Information Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue regarding your NVC experience, your physical and training needs and your understanding of details and any preparation that would add to your learning. To Register Call  646 201 9226 For questions - Call  646 201 9226 or contact	October 2nd (2:00 PM)  thru 5th (3:00 PM) Request an Intensive in your area.	Menla Mountain Retreat Center   www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm  www.menla.org	$375*	$325-$561 Depending on accommodation	Thursday thru Sunday (2 1/2 hours travel from NYC and 2 hours from Albany) Map and Directions  Click Here For Information about bus transport to Phoenicia NY (Menla's Stop) on Trailways Click Here.
"10,000 Strategies" 4-Day Request Intensive with Thom Bond Click Here For More Information Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue regarding your NVC experience, your physical and training needs and your understanding of details and any preparation that would add to your learning. To Register Call  646 201 9226 For questions - Call  646 201 9226 or contact	December 4th (2:00 PM) thru 7th (3:00 PM) Request an Intensive in your area.	Menla Mountain Retreat Center  www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm  www.menla.org	$375*	$325-$561 Depending on accommodations	Thursday thru Sunday (2 1/2 hours travel from NYC and 2 hours from Albany) Map and Directions  Click Here.    For Information about bus transport to Phoenicia NY (Menla's Stop) on Trailways Click Here.
Request an Intensive in your area at 646 201 9226 or at Travel - Newburgh Airport is the 90 minutes away.  Buses are available (www.trailwaysny.com) from NYC and Albany to Phoenicia with shuttle service to Menla Mountain available for $0 to $5 (depending on availability of free rides) *If you can’t afford the tuition please contact us to figure something out.  We offer payment plans, work exchange, scholarships or other strategies yet unconsidered.

Intensive Descriptions

"Discovery Weekend"
Intensive Intro to NVC
The Next Discovery Weekend is in Manhattan
September 12th (7:00 PM-9:15 PM), 13^th (9:30-4:30) and 14^th (9:30-4:30)
Friday (7:00PM-9:15PM)
Saturday (9:30AM-4:30PM) 
Sunday (9:30AM-4:30PM)

Click Here to Register Online
OR CALL 646 201 9226 OR  

 with  Thom Bond
Founder and Director of NYCNVC
Certified Trainer, CNVC

This non-residential training is for anyone who has some familiarity with NVC and wants a comprehensive Introductory training on a professional level.  Many people learn NVC in Practice Groups or 1 to 3 hour classes.  Although this is a very viable way to learn NVC, it does not provide the movement and intensity many beginners enjoy.  Additionally, many people who are learning NVC want to work with a Certified Trainer to be sure they are getting a clear understanding of what NVC is and what it is not. 

The NVC Discovery Intensive takes us from the very beginning to a deeper understanding of the meaning and implications NVC has in our lives and for al of Us at large.  We will practice to responding and communicating consciously by expressing and hearing, based on what we are observing, feeling, needing, and requesting.

Through the introduction of concepts in combination with experiential exercises, demonstrations role plays and more, participants will learn about the background, philosophy and concepts of NVC and have a first hand experience of practicing it.

Possible Outcomes:

-Spend More Time Loving Your Loved Ones
-Have Less Painful and Shorter Conflicts.
-Spend Less Time in Pain and More Time Getting What You Want
-Have Your Needs Matter
-Be Understood
-Translate "Bad Behavior" into Deeper Understanding
-Become "Trigger Resistant"

Topics include:

-Observation and Evaluation
-Feelings and Thoughts
-Needs and Strategies
-Requests and Demands
-Empathy
-Self Empathy
-Expression
-The Model and the Consciousness

Dates and Times: 

The Next Discovery Weekend is in Manhattan
September 12th, 13th and 14th
Friday (7:00PM-9:15PM)
Saturday (9:30AM-4:30PM) 
Sunday (9:30AM-4:30PM)

Suggested Experience Level:

Location:

West Side YMCA 63rd Street, Manhattan and Central Park West

You can also host a Discovery Weekend in your area.  For more information, please call our office at 646 201 9226 or at

For questions, information or to register by phone, call our office at 646 201 9226 or 

Please call Thom Bond at 646 201 9226  if you have other questions pertaining to learning issues.  You
can also get him at:

For logistics questions, information or to register, call our office at 646 201 9226 or contact us at 

"Breaking Your Heart"
NVC Empathy Intensive
Next Intensive in 2009 TBA

with  Thom Bond
Founder and Director of NYCNVC
Certified Trainer, CNVC

“It is only through letting our heart break that we discover something unexpected: The heart cannot actually break, it can only break open…To live with a broken-open heart is to experience life full strength…When the heart breaks open, it marks the beginning of a real love affair with this world. It is a broken-hearted love affair, rather than the conventional kind based on hope and expectation. Only in this fearless love can [we] respond to life’s pain as well as its beauty.  -John Welwood. From his book Love and Awakening
                                                   

From Thom:
"Many of the people I've worked with over the past 7 years (myself included) get to a point where we know what NVC is... we have read Marshall Rosenberg's book(s), participated in a practice group, gone to workshops yet still struggle to "integrate" empathy into moment by moment experience or at a depth that we know is possible yet can't seem to get to. 

This intensive is intended to support motivated NVC learners in breaking through and having a deeper and more sustainable integration of empathy in our lives.  In a small community environment (30- 40 people including 4-6 Trainer/facilitators) we experience challenge, guidance and support in all the "pieces" that go into the empathy process. 

Being present, being aware of and maintaining our focus and connecting with our intention are some of the skills we will work on throughout the Intensive.  We will deepen our experience of Feelings and enrich our relationship to the energy of Needs (our own and others).  It is by this practice that we can allow the empathic flow to deepen and increase.

As an NVC Trainer, I am committed to supporting myself and those around me to share in a level of connection that can transcend conflict and habitual ways of being and to enrich and empower ourselves, our relationships and our organizations.  If you are interested or have questions, please call me at 212 496 3111. 

With Love, Thom 

In this intensive we will work on:

- Feeling Feelings
- Practice "Being"
- Connecting to the Life Energy of Needs
- Mindfulness Practices
- Mourning
- Empathy Demonstrations
- Coached Empathy Sessions
- Empathy Role Plays and Exercises
- Connecting to Our Own Deeper Needs through Self-Empathy
- Emergency Self-Empathy

When

Thursday to Sunday, July 17th (starts at 2:00 PM), 18th, 19th and 20th (Ends at 3:00 PM).   

 Where?

Menla Mountain Retreat Center in Woodland Valley near Phoenicia, NY.  For map Click Here.  This is a retreat center that is owned and operated by Tibet House in New York (a non-profit organization dedicated to creating peace).  It is a truly beautiful and magical place, nestled among the highest peaks of the Catskill mountains. For more, go to www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm  

Lodging

For the July Empathy  Intensive, we have four tent platforms (up to 16 people), 2 Houses, (Snow Lion sleeps 13, Dragon Sleeps 11) plus shared and private rooms in the lodges.  Our main meeting and living space is in "Snow Lion," a well-appointed, modern house on site, featuring organic cotton bedding and plenty of closet space.  This is where the Dalai Lama stays when he visits.  It features a large living room for meetings and a beautiful kitchen and dining area.  Private and shared rooms (including 3 1/2 star accommodations) are available in Hill House, Mountain House and Delos Inn. For pictures go to www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm 

For this Intensive we will eat three meals a day at the main dining room in Delos Inn.  They provide Gourmet Vegetarian  (with meat optional) meals featuring local, organic or all natural (no additives or preservatives) food. 

How Much does it Cost?

$375 tuition, $325-$560 lodging depending on accommodations.

If you can’t afford the tuition please contact us to figure something out.  We offer payment plans, work exchange, scholarships or other strategies yet unconsidered. 

This training offers parallel tracks for learners with various levels of experience from beginner to advanced. Typically learners have 20 - 80 hours workshop or practice group experience.  Beginner track option is available with consultation and agreement. 

Registration

Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue (usually 10-20 minutes) regarding your NVC experience,  your physical care and comfort, your training needs, our understanding of details (meals, travel, lodging, payments and so forth), plus any preparation we imagine would  add to your learning.

Call  646 201 9226 or contact Thom at  

to Schedule a Registration call.

For logistics questions, information call our office at 646 201 9226 or 

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"What I Tell Myself" 
Self-Empathy Intensive
Thursday to Sunday, October 2nd (starts at 2:00 PM), 3rd, 4th and 5th (Ends at 3:00 PM).   
To Register - Call 646 201 9226

with  Thom Bond
Founder and Director of NYCNVC
Certified Trainer, CNVC

"The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things "because we're supposed to."
                                                            -Marshall Rosenberg, creator of NVC

From Thom
Many people experience a correlation between self-empathy and how well we are able to stay in "NVC Consciousness."  For many of us, the ability to Self-Empathize represents a key to integrating NVC into our lives and significant relationships.  We learn that our ability to self empathize becomes a requisite skill for Living NVC Consciousness.  Deep Empathy, Dialogue, Mediation, Being an NVC Trainer, and perhaps most importantly, knowing what we want to do versus what we think we should do, all are supported by our skills in Self-Empathy.  

This workshop is an opportunity to understand and practice Self-Empathy at a new level and identify practices you can use for the rest of your Life, as an NVC practitioner and as a Human.

With Love, Thom 

This is an Intermediate/Advanced training. Beginner track option is available with consultation and agreement. 
Please call Thom Bond at 212 496 3111 if you are interested in this option.

Topics will include:

-Defining and Understanding Empathy and Self-Empathy
-Your Personal Relationship to Feelings and Needs
-Self Empathy Demonstrations
-Assisted Self-Empathy Sessions
-Distinguishing our Observations and Needs from What We Tell Ourselves
-Distinguishing our Needs from Our Strategies
-Self-Empathy and Making Requests
-Working with Triggers
-Self-Empathy in Dialogue 
-Self-Empathy,  Pain and Suffering
-Distinguishing and Translating "should/shouldn't"  Thinking
-Self-Empathy and Making Choices and Decisions 
-Core Jackals and "Life Sentences"
-Mourning Unmet Needs

When?

Thursday to Sunday, October 2nd (starts at 2:00 PM), 3rd, 4th and 5th (Ends at 3:00 PM).   

Where?

Menla Mountain Retreat Center in Woodland Valley near Phoenicia, NY.  For map Click Here.  This is a retreat center that is owned and operated by Tibet House in New York (a non-profit organization dedicated to creating peace).  It is a truly beautiful and magical place, nestled among the highest peaks of the Catskill mountains. For more, go to www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm 

Lodging

There are shared and private rooms in the houses and lodges.  Our main meeting and living space is in "Snow Lion," a well-appointed, modern house on site, featuring organic cotton bedding and plenty of closet space.  This is where the Dalai Lama stays when he visits.  It features a large living room for meetings and a beautiful kitchen and dining area.  For the March Intensive we will also be opening "Dragon," the house next door to "Snow Lion." Private and shared rooms (including 3 1/2 star accommodations) are also available in Hill House, Mountain House and Delos Inn.  For pictures go to www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm 

This Intensive will utilize the kitchen  located in our main meeting place "Snow Lion."  Breakfast and Lunch are buffet style and feature Vegetarian  (with meat optional) meals featuring local, organic or all natural (no additives or preservatives) food. Evening meals will prepared and served by a cook staff on premises.

How Much does it Cost?

$375 tuition, $325-$560 lodging depending on accommodations.

If you can’t afford the tuition please contact us to figure something out.  We offer payment plans, work exchange, scholarships or other strategies yet unconsidered. 

This training offers parallel tracks for learners with various levels of experience from beginner to advanced. Typically learners have 20 - 80 hours workshop or practice group experience.  Beginner track option is available with consultation and agreement. 

Registration

Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue (usually 10-20 minutes) regarding your NVC experience,  your physical care and comfort, your training needs, our understanding of details (meals, travel, lodging, payments and so forth), plus any preparation we imagine would  add to your learning.

Call  646 201 9226 or contact Thom at  

to Schedule a Registration call.

For logistics questions, information call our office at 646 201 9226 or 

10,000 Strategies
Request Intensive
Next Request Intensive May 15th (2:00 PM) thru 18th (3:00 PM)
To Register - Call 646 201 9226

with  Thom Bond
Founder and Director of NYCNVC
Certified Trainer, CNVC

"I have two questions for you.  What would you like Others to do? And why would you want them to be doing it?"

New York, 2002, Marshall Rosenberg, Originator of Nonviolent Communication  

 

From Thom
If your answer to the second question is "Because they want to," you're in "NVC Consciousness."  By using NVC Requests, we can interact with Others while staying connected to our Values. 

When we have learned to hear others empathically and express ourselves honestly, requests are how we connect to the life in others and help others understand the aliveness in us.  They are the practical tools we can use to deepen understanding and heart connection, transcend conflict and exercise the power of the Human Imagination.

Requests are where we can use all of our skills and awareness and in many ways represents the most spiritually challenging part of NVC practice.  With practice, NVC Requests help us discover our own attachments and suffering and give us the opportunity to transform how we function in the world and in our relationships.  The workshop is designed to help us move from habitual ways of interacting (demand, should/shouldn't thinking) to a potentially enriching and empowering perspective and experience that acknowledges and connects us to our Needs and those of Others.  Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more or have other questions or things to say.

With Love, Thom

Topics will include:

- NVC Requests versus Demands
- Connection Requests
- Hearing "No" -  Saying "No"
- Boundaries, Demands and Requests
- Understanding and Contributing to "Quality of Connection"
- Seeing and Understanding Our Own Judgments
- Requests and Dialogue
- Self Empathy and Requests
- Requests and Mediation

This is an Intermediate/Advanced training. Beginner track option is not available for this intensive. 

When?

There are two dates scheduled for the coming year.

1) Thursday to Sunday, May 15th (starts at 2:00 PM), 16th, 17th and 18th (Ends at 3:00 PM). 

2) Thursday to Sunday, December 4th (starts at 2:00 PM), 5th, 6th and 7th (Ends at 3:00 PM).   

Where?

Menla Mountain Retreat Center in Woodland Valley near Phoenicia, NY.  For map Click Here. This is a retreat center that is owned and operated by Tibet House in New York (a non-profit organization dedicated to creating peace).  It is a truly beautiful and magical place, nestled among the highest peaks of the Catskill mountains. For more, go to  www.nycnvc.org/menla.htm 

Lodging

There are shared and private rooms in the houses and lodges.  Our main meeting and living space is in "Snow Lion," a well-appointed, modern house on site, featuring organic cotton bedding and plenty of closet space.  This is where the Dalai Lama stays when he visits.  It features a large living room for meetings and a beautiful kitchen and dining area.  Private and shared rooms (including 3 1/2 star accommodations) are also available in Hill House, Mountain House and Delos Inn.

For the May '08 Request Intensive we will utilize the kitchen  located in our main meeting place "Snow Lion."  Breakfast and Lunch are buffet style and feature Vegetarian  (with meat optional) meals featuring local, organic or all natural (no additives or preservatives) food. Evening meals will prepared and served by a cook staff on premises.  If our registrations exceed 30, we will likely move our meals to the Delos Dining Room.

How Much does it Cost?

$375 tuition, $325-$560 lodging depending on accommodations.

If you can’t afford the tuition please contact us to figure something out.  We offer payment plans, work exchange, scholarships or other strategies yet unconsidered. 

This training offers parallel tracks for learners with various levels of experience from beginner to advanced. Typically learners have 20 - 80 hours workshop or practice group experience.  Beginner track option is not available for this intensive. 

Registration

Registrations are by phone only and include a dialogue (usually 10-20 minutes) regarding your NVC experience,  your physical care and comfort, your training needs, our understanding of details (meals, travel, lodging, payments and so forth), plus any preparation we imagine would  add to your learning.

Call  646 201 9226 or contact Thom at  

to Schedule a Registration call.

For logistics questions, information call our office at 646 201 9226 or 

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